"Let's forget about yesterday, create today and tomorrow. Living in the present moment."
Stay strong, you might be alone but you certainly have yourself. Stand tall, do not cry over spilled milk. Why be so hard on yourself over someone who chooses to leave? Haven't you already established the fact that if someone really cared, he/she would stay regardless of how difficult the problem is? Yes, no matter the situation, the one who leaves is the one in the wrong, and that is also one of the requirements of friendship previously discussed. Maybe she really isn't as good as you think she is, maybe you really don't mean as much to her as she means to you. Quit crying, it's time to accept the hard truths, get up and move on.
Didn't the Qur'an say "And surely what comes after is better for you than that which has gone before"?
These religious books, they surely are banks of wisdom.
There is a specific feeling which exists only when you run into someone about whom you had long forgotten. It’s probably most palpable when it’s an ex, but it can happen with friends who were once particularly close. It is comparable to a scab that seems to have been on your skin forever — a scrape which was once quite painful but has been so long in the healing process that you no longer notice its presence when you wash over it in the shower. You peel it off almost out of boredom and suddenly there is a drop or two of blood, something that vaguely resembles the wound it once was, now too distant to really cause any discomfort. These people are wounds which have healed over, which have never quite turned into scars but which have become just another part of your lived-in body.
Letting someone go — when it is a necessary act of self-preservation, something that has to come if you expect to move forward in life — is regarded as a kind of victory. You have successfully overcome an emotional trauma that once surrounded you like a kind of fog which prevented you from ever seeing the sun. People will tell you, always with the best intentions, that one day you are going to wake up and realize that you are okay, and your life is not immediately over because they are no longer a part of it. And this is true, though it’s not the net positive that we are so quick to label it as. Because it’s not as though you simply wake up one day and proclaim yourself fine, suddenly hearing birds chirp and children laugh after months of only your own oppressive silence. You simply start to forget, feeling the acute pain of the loss less and less as each day goes on. There will come a day when you don’t care, but you won’t notice it, because you will have other things to think about.
But in order to let that pain go, in order to remove this person from the place of power they have occupied for so long, you must let everything go. Perhaps in a very distant future, you will be able to pick and choose the memories you want to keep, but for a very long time, one memory will always bleed into another. You cannot simply think about the time the two of you sat on the beach for an entire night, talking about your childhood, drinking the second-least-expensive wine you could find in the store. Because when you allow yourself to think about that, it will remind you of them as a whole, and will lead into all of the terrible things that happened after that night — not the least of which being their eventual departure. They exist within us as whole people, stories with beginnings and endings, and in order to let go of them we cannot choose the things we want to isolate for nostalgia.
We have to stop caring what they would think if they saw us, stop worrying about running into them in the store, stop obsessing over the things we could have done differently to make them stay. And that means letting go of everything they meant to us, proving to ourselves that life can be just as good, just as beautiful, without them in it. When you realize, long after the fact, that you no longer care about someone — that what they are doing in life has no bearing on you, and vice versa — it feels very much like a small death. Who they were with you no longer exists, and you cannot even preserve it in your memory, for the sake of your own mental health.
I recently ran into someone I used to know very well. I hadn’t seen him in close to two years, and I barely recognized him when I crossed him on the sidewalk. I had forgotten that it was his neighborhood, had forgotten that we used to eat there, forgotten it all. And he looked different, different enough to be slightly unsettling. We exchanged words, but as people who had barely ever known each other. It was a spoken confirmation that things had indeed changed — that we had let one another go, out of necessity — and that the parts of ourselves we needed to erase to move on were just going to have to be forgotten. Of course, you never really forget anyone, but you certainly release them. You stop allowing their history to have any meaning for you today. You let them change their haircut, let them move, let them fall in love again. And when you see this person you have let go, you realize that there is no reason to be sad. The person you knew exists somewhere, but you are separated by too much time to reach them again.
We told each other we should get coffee sometime, but didn’t exchange our new numbers. We knew we weren’t going to see each other again.
http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/how-we-let-people-go/
當世界只剩下這床頭燈
Dang shi jie zhi sheng xia zhe chuang tou deng
When all that's left in the world is this lamp on my nightstand
你那邊是早晨已經出門
Ni na bian shi zao chen yi jing chu men
It's early morning where you are; you've already left the house
我側身感到你在轉身
Wo ce shen gan dao ni zai zhuan shen
I'm lying on my side; I can sense that you are turning around
無數陌生人 正在等下一個綠燈
Wu shu mo sheng ren Zheng zai deng xia yi ge lu deng
Countless strangers Are waiting for the next green light
一再錯身彼此脆弱的時分
Yi zai cuo shen bi ci cui ruo de shi fen
Again and again, we've missed each other's most lonely and vulnerable times
不過渴望一個吻的餘溫
Bu guo ke wang yi ge wen de yu wen
However, I am still longing for the lingering warmth of your kiss
我關了燈 黑暗把我併吞 Wo
Wo guan le deng Hei an ba wo bing tun Wo
I turn off the lights, The darkness engulfs and swallows me, whoa
Chorus:
你不在 當我最需要愛 你卻不在 Wo
Ni bu zai Dang wo zui xu yao ai Ni que bu zai Wo
You're not here Just when I need love the most You're not here, Whoa
無盡等待像獨白的難捱 Wo
Wu jin deng dai xiang du bai de nan ai Wo
This endless waiting is slow torture, like a monologue
你不在 高興還是悲哀 你都不在
Ni bu zai Gao xing hai shi bei ai Ni dou bu zai
You're not here Happiness or Sorrow, You're not here
我受了傷再偷偷好起來 但你不在 不在
Wo shou le shang zai tou tou hao qi lai Dan ni bu zai Bu zai
I've been hurt, and I secretly, stealthily recovered But you weren't here You weren't here
時間再按下許多次快門
Shi jian zai an xia xu duo ci kuai men
Time has clicked the shutter numerous times
沉默裡聽見轉動的秒針
Chen mo li ting jian zhuan dong de miao zhen
In the silence, you can hear the ticking second hand
一個人吃飯這個凌晨
Yi ge ren chi fan zhe ge ling chen
I eat alone this early morning, this dawn
孤單一人份 你低聲說你有別人
Gu dan yi ren fen Ni di sheng shuo ni you bie ren
But this loneliness belongs to just one person In a low voice, you tell me that you have found someone else
我的話筒只有自己的體溫
Wo de hua tong zhi you zi ji de ti wen
Against the mouthpiece of my telephone, there is only the warmth of my own body
怎樣認真也不一定成真
Zen yang ren zhen ye bu yi ding cheng zhen
Oh, "earnestness can't guarantee that your dreams will come true"
你說得對 我不得不承認 Wo
Ni shuo de dui Wo bu de bu cheng ren Wo
You were right I can't deny it, Whoa
Chorus:
你不在 當我最需要愛 你卻不在 Wo
Ni bu zai Dang wo zui xu yao ai Ni que bu zai Wo
You're not here Just when I need love the most You're not here, Whoa
無盡等待像獨白的難捱 Wo
Wu jin deng dai xiang du bai de nan ai Wo
This endless waiting is slow torture, like a monologue
你不在 高興還是悲哀 你都不在
Ni bu zai Gao xing hai shi bei ai Ni dou bu zai
You're not here Happiness or Sorrow, You're not here
我受了傷再偷偷好起來 但你不在 Wo
Wo shou le shang zai tou tou hao qi lai Dan ni bu zai Wo
I've been hurt, and I secretly, stealthily recovered But you weren't here You weren't here
Bridge:
那些搖擺 我都明白 都明白
Na xie yao bai Wo dou ming bai Dou ming bai
That kind of indecision, that swaying... I understand it all Understand it all
但你不在 愛已不在 不在
Dan ni bu zai Ai yi bu zai Bu zai
But you're not here Love has already gone It's not here
你不在 當我最需要愛 你卻不在 Wo
Ni bu zai Dang wo zui xu yao ai Ni que bu zai Wo
You're not here Just when I need love the most You're not here, Whoa
一個人分飾兩角的戀愛 Wo
Yi ge ren fen shi liang jiao de lian ai Wo
One person taking on all the responsibility of a two-person relationship, Whoa
你不在 高興還是悲哀 你都不在 Wo
Ni bu zai Gao xing hai shi bei ai Ni dou bu zai Wo
You're not here Happiness or Sorrow, You're not here, Whoa
像空氣般不存在的存在
Xiang kong qi ban bu cun zai de cun zai
Like the air-- knowing it exists, but not knowing where it is
再沒有痕跡的愛
Zai mei you hen ji de ai
A love that leaves no hints or traces
你不在 當我需要你的愛 你不在
Ni bu zai Dang wo xu yao ni de ai Ni bu zai
You weren't here When I needed your love You weren't here
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