Denial.

There are some lies which we convince ourselves to believe just to make ourselves feel better from a fact we choose not to accept.

Why would we convince ourselves that it is 'better' for her if we do not even try, at all? Maybe we are all afraid of the future where there are no certainty of what happens?

Why are we so selfish, so selfish to ourselves? Why is it that we choose to be sacrifice something that we want for the betterment of others?

Maybe, that is, in its actual sense, love - to want the best of another, whether or not it benefits you, whether or not you will possess her.